1.
TAKE A TIME-OUT
A time-out is an emergency tool to use when you think you may be
violent to your partner. Tell your partner about the time-out process
before you use it. Make an agreement with her that you will give her a
safe consistent time-out signal anytime you think you are about to be
violent and need to take a time-out. Also, offer her the agreement
that she may use a time-out signal if she feels afraid and thinks you
need to take a time-out, and then take a time-out! To do so, remove
yourself safely from the house and your partner for 60 minutes so you
won't harm or abuse her. After one hour, if you are calm, call your
partner and ask her if she feels safe. If she does, then return to
your house. If she does not feel safe, tell her you will call back in
an hour. Call back one hour later and ask your partner if she feels
safe. If she does, return home. If she does not, find another place to
stay for the night.
2.
CALL THE MEN'S 24-HOUR HOTLINE
The hotline
provides support and information to men who want to stop their
violence to their partners. The Hotline number is
415-924-1070.
DURING YOUR TIME-OUT PRACTICE THE 4 D's:
·
Don't
Drink
·
Don't
Drive
·
Don't
Do Drugs
·
Don't
Do Anything Violent or Dangerous, Including Dangerous Thinking.
·
AND
Call the Men's Hotline at
415-924-1070
3.
ATTEND A
FIRST STAGE CLASS OF THE MEN'S PROGRAM.
Call now to find out when the next First Stage Class meets, and make
an agreement with yourself to attend the class. Men's violence to
women is learned behavior, and it can be unlearned! The telephone
number for the Men's Program is:
415-457-6760. Call NOW!
